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Dedicated to those beautiful girls, who have just turned 16, and want to walk wise You have turned 16, Yay! you are wise, walk likewise The World needs wise people like you. Wish you the very best Get your driver’s Continue reading Just turned 16,yay! You are wise,walk likewise

A mother’s pleasant words are like honey to the child’s tongue

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Pleasant Words

Mothe's pleasant words is like honey
Girl enjoying her mother’s pleasant words

A mother’s pleasant words are like honey to the child’s tongue,this is why i wrote blessing notes to our daughters beginning of the year. I am encouraging all mothers or any woman who is dealing with children to bless them/speak good of them.Speak those good things we wish for their lives.Ladies,we are nurturers.There is something in us women ,which God has entrusted us with.Lets not slacken.The kids need us.Even our man need us.

God blessed my husband and i with two daughters. The first one is 25  is  a very responsible young woman. The second one is about 23 and is a hard worker.

We love to speak and write positive statements, Biblical truth and words of encouragements to them.We pick one or two things they are good at,and reinforce.We don’t lie.If they are doing something contrary to what we expect,we tell them ,they can do better.This has opened a way for the girls to come to me for advice especially when it’s girl issues.We have a relationship of Trust,and we thank God for it.We are not perfect by any means.We are still learning.

Children need to hear their parents talk good of them, encourage them,  ’cause it does good to their souls. That brings life to their beings and future. Who better to do that than the parent. In other words it’s called blessing your children.

This one was for our first daughter. The other one coming soon.

A mother’s pleasant words as honey

  Here we go:

Blessings to a daughter
Blessings for the year

Happy new year Salome Nyasha (Grace)

Thanks be to God, for keeping you

He is your Keeper

Safety

And Guide

May 2017 bring you joy,
 peace  
 and gladness
I speak great strides in your life;

 Academically
 Professionally
 and Personally

 

You are a victor

A young woman, that is very responsible

You are beautiful

Confident

Smart

And kind

Love you lots

Mommy dearest

Salome  loved and appreciated this:INDEED it was like honey on her tongue..http://superiordomain.net/parenting-children-heritage-lord/

My struggles during puberty years,were torturous,lonesome and confusing

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Puberty years struggles
A girl struggling with low self-image

Puberty years struggles that I experienced were lonesome and confusing. I  felt uncomfortable having my body shape and alignment change. Sorry for too much info. I got to do this so that my message will be clear.

My mom passed when I was 12, http://superiordomain.net/astounding-illness/ and that left me with some insecurities. I  had elder sisters  I could ask about some of the girls’ stuff. I  actually lived with one of them but could not bring myself up to say anything. Because then, I was very shy when it comes to body issues and didn’t want to talk about.

What was it about these puberty years struggles?

My menses started at 13, and did not want anybody at home to know.Since  I was very uncomfortable about it. And  shy too. Hence that made it difficult for me to have access to the right sanitary pads. I also started developing breasts, and hips. When it came to hips that tortured me. Being an hour-glass girl after my mom of course, I would try to hide under sweaters. The boys added salt to the wound ’cause they would check  me out. I did not want to wear a bra…In my mind I thought if  I would ignore the inevitable, the features would just go away. Pathetic me. I really thought I looked older and bigger than my peers.Them puberty years struggles were really twisting my mind.

At school, I did not like to change into a swimming costume. Hence feeling like the odd one out, to my self and others. Leaving me feeling like I was abnormal.

Anybody like me, out there? or I was just plain weird.

The mirror and camera have become an obsession today

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It seems there are other issues or just the same but wearing different faces. Through reading around and talking to young girls,I figured the following. Some girls think they are not skinny enough, pretty enough even light enough.  Don’t have a big enough burst or think their burst is too small.  It could be about their legs( they are too skinny or too thick). Those with acne most of the  times struggle ’cause they try all sorts of remedies to no avail. Comparison in clothing is also a big one. How fashionable someone is and how much of a big wardrobe is at one’s disposal.

I want to fit in. I want to look cool. l want to look like the rest of them are also major outcries.

Sometimes there is comparison among siblings, which is not healthy for the family love and unit. It’s of utmost importance for parents  to know how to affirm their girls without comparison. Somebody  said  ‘the selfie issue’ is leading most of the younger girls into depression. Because of comparison and trying to keep up. I can’t remember who said it, but I believe their observation is  right.

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Questions like the ones below are  their torment and torture

How do I measure up?

What do other girls think about me?

Do boys think I am attractive?

Do they think I am cool?

What should we do about girls undergoing puberty years

    We really need to be on the lookout for any issues. And listen to them plus attend to any of their struggles. To affirm, encourage and motivate our young girls to accept their  looks. They need to know that everybody is beautiful but we are different in shape and bone structures. And if they are overweight, carefully  talk to them about it. Because usually when a girl is overweight, they are already beating themselves up about it. As parents, teachers or older women, we can teach them to clean themselves up. And enhance their beauty without going overboard.

Girls desperately need the right kind of validation.

A negative environment can be changed by positive reactions

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Environment-I should not allow myself to be affected too much by the environment. But to affect it. I love to read around,learn and share ideas with others. But my problems usually comes into implementation.

In blogging I discovered  you can learn  until you are full of confusion.There is a lot of good information out there.And not so good one too.

Procrastination is one of  my Major issues.I am writing this for others and as a reminder for myself. I seriously  need to nudge myself. Remind myself to work hard and not to easily get comfortable.

Procrastination has caused me to loose opportunities in life.Just thinking that i will do it next week.And the following week the opportunity is gone.Then i am mad at myself.

We may not choose the activities of the environment

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As iron sharpens iron,so one person sharpens another.Proverbs 27:17

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Collaboration

 

            A comfortable environment

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One day at a time

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                Decide what you want to make of the enviroment
enviroment
Make a decision