An ‘imperfect’ Mother’s Day

'Imperfect' Mother's Day

We usually find ourselves in an ‘imperfect’ Mother’s Day. With Mother’s Day around the corner, you wanna it perfect right.

  • your husband telling you, you’re the best mother ever
  • all your kids in the nest
  • the absent ones sending gifts
  • and making loving phone calls
  • you wish that one in jail was out
  • Jack who is on drugs, sober
  • wishing your baby had not passed away
  • and your mom was alive to see her grandkids
  • and she ve  loving on them

'imperfect' mother's day


I had a miscarriage on January 27, 2003

and I was due the following September.

I usually imagine how old he/she would have been

Had I not miscarried.

My mom passed when I was 12

and now I’m 49.

Once in a while, during my joyous moments, I wish she were here.

In sad moments, I imagine how she would have reacted.

In all this; God has granted be grace

I no longer grieve about my mom or baby

Does it mean I no longer love them? NO

There is a time to grieve and a time to move on.

Prolonged grief destroys.

And is it easy to move on? NO

Does it mean once, in a while, you don’t cry? No, meaning you may cry

Depending on what’s going on, especially if you talk deeply about it.

But, it won’t be something on your mind constantly.


Talking about them Not to them

If you are a believer in Jesus Christ

it’s alright to talk about them, not to them

I’m not trying to create controversy

or trying to be insensitive

For I grieve too

but I am stating the truth.

For when you speak to the dead, you are inviting evil spirits into your life.

Deuteronomy 18:10-11 God prohibits us to practice

  • fortune-telling
  • divination
  • interprets omens
  • a charmer
  • medium
  • sorcerer
  • necromancer
  • or  one who inquires of the dead

Our loved ones who have passed, do not have any power to do anything for us.

Yes, we do miss them, and that’s something the Lord would want us to bring to Him.

There is one mediator between God and humanity, Jesus Christ.

As children of God, we need to attempt not to allow emotionalism to get the best of us.

I have lost loved ones too,

Therefore, I believe I am not being insensitive

and I believe God expects me to uphold His standards.

At the same time, I am not trying to make anybody feel bad

because you feel what you feel

Grieving hurts and can make anybody a mess

Jesus is touched by our hurts

thus Scriptures tells us to go to the throne of grace in times of need

and find grace.

'imperfect' mother's day


How to celebrate an ‘imperfect’ Mother’s Day

For me, I’m a mother of two girls,

so I celebrate my motherhood.

I thank God that He gave me those two beautiful girls.

Let’s celebrate other mothers.

For, giving out to others is fulfilling.

If you have lost a mom, celebrate the closest mom in your life.

I also believe motherhood is an endowment.

You might not have natural children but playing a major role in someone’s life.

That’s being a mother!


 'Imperfect' Mother's Day

My heart goes to you

If you have just lost your mom or wife, a child,

especially recently, my heart goes to you.

This  isn’t  an easy time

May you find comfort in the Lord

May you find hope in Him

If you have children that have lost their way

Remember, You are still a mom

continue praying for them.

Hannah prayed a son, Samuel into existence.

Samuel, who became a Prophet

Could it be, your struggle is a call to something great.

A ministry that’s being birthed.

Have a blessed Mother’s Day, full of the Comfort of the Lord!


About Mavis Chuma

I love Jesus. I love life. I love people. My life is hid in Christ in God. I belong to God & am seated in heavenly places with Jesus Christ. As Jesus is in heaven so am I in the world. So I am more than a conqueror in Christ Jesus. I am a winner.

4 Replies to “An ‘imperfect’ Mother’s Day”

  1. Losing loved ones is something so many people go through. Your post reminds me that relationships are a gift from God. We humans are the only created beings on earth that are made in the image of God and can have intimate relationships with others. I believe God feels our pain and understands our grief for He created us to have relationships. Your post also makes me think of how we can grieve God’s heart by not seeking relationship with Him, which is the ultimate relationship and allows us to love other human beings with God’s love. Sometimes it feels like God is distant, but He feels pain much more deeply than we do.

  2. Thank You Sarah Lee much. Your points are spot on. Indeed our relationship with God is important and will help us get fulfillment. I appreciate your stopping by.

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