We usually find ourselves in an ‘imperfect’ Mother’s Day. With Mother’s Day around the corner, you wanna it perfect right.
- your husband telling you, you’re the best mother ever
- all your kids in the nest
- the absent ones sending gifts
- and making loving phone calls
- you wish that one in jail was out
- Jack who is on drugs, sober
- wishing your baby had not passed away
- and your mom was alive to see her grandkids
- and she ve loving on them
I had a miscarriage on January 27, 2003
and I was due the following September.
I usually imagine how old he/she would have been
Had I not miscarried.
My mom passed when I was 12
and now I’m 49.
Once in a while, during my joyous moments, I wish she were here.
In sad moments, I imagine how she would have reacted.
In all this; God has granted be grace
I no longer grieve about my mom or baby
Does it mean I no longer love them? NO
There is a time to grieve and a time to move on.
Prolonged grief destroys.
And is it easy to move on? NO
Does it mean once, in a while, you don’t cry? No, meaning you may cry
Depending on what’s going on, especially if you talk deeply about it.
But, it won’t be something on your mind constantly.
Talking about them Not to them
If you are a believer in Jesus Christ
it’s alright to talk about them, not to them
I’m not trying to create controversy
or trying to be insensitive
For I grieve too
but I am stating the truth.
For when you speak to the dead, you are inviting evil spirits into your life.
Deuteronomy 18:10-11 God prohibits us to practice
- interprets omens
- a charmer
- or one who inquires of the dead
Our loved ones who have passed, do not have any power to do anything for us.
Yes, we do miss them, and that’s something the Lord would want us to bring to Him.
There is one mediator between God and humanity, Jesus Christ.
As children of God, we need to attempt not to allow emotionalism to get the best of us.
I have lost loved ones too,
Therefore, I believe I am not being insensitive
and I believe God expects me to uphold His standards.
At the same time, I am not trying to make anybody feel bad
because you feel what you feel
Grieving hurts and can make anybody a mess
Jesus is touched by our hurts
thus Scriptures tells us to go to the throne of grace in times of need
and find grace.
How to celebrate an ‘imperfect’ Mother’s Day
For me, I’m a mother of two girls,
so I celebrate my motherhood.
I thank God that He gave me those two beautiful girls.
Let’s celebrate other mothers.
For, giving out to others is fulfilling.
If you have lost a mom, celebrate the closest mom in your life.
I also believe motherhood is an endowment.
You might not have natural children but playing a major role in someone’s life.
That’s being a mother!
My heart goes to you
If you have just lost your mom or wife, a child,
especially recently, my heart goes to you.
This isn’t an easy time
May you find comfort in the Lord
May you find hope in Him
If you have children that have lost their way
Remember, You are still a mom
continue praying for them.
Hannah prayed a son, Samuel into existence.
Samuel, who became a Prophet
Could it be, your struggle is a call to something great.
A ministry that’s being birthed.
Have a blessed Mother’s Day, full of the Comfort of the Lord!